When I first started dating my boyfriend, I scoured the Internet to find as much information as I could. I wanted to know what it was like to date someone in medical school. Would it just be a waste of time? Do these things ever work out?
The information I found was less than useful. “Date a medical student if you’re ok with never seeing your significant other.” Thanks for the warning.
Having said that, I have never felt neglected in my relationship. He makes time for me. I don’t feel like he is exceptionally busy, and we have been through several big tests since we met. It probably helps that I work full time and go to school part time. I am busy myself.
Next year might be a different story. He’ll be a resident then, working insane hours. I am hoping for the best but preparing for the worst.
The primary worry right now isn’t really how busy he will be but WHERE he will be. Residency matching is one of the most convoluted systems I have ever heard of. I really want to stay here, but that may not happen. I spent this afternoon researching the places he said he was interested in. Some seem ok. I’m still not thrilled with the idea of moving, but there are other places that have affordable nursing programs, and even competitive entry for ADN programs (usually BSN programs are competitive but ADN programs have long waiting lists).
I am calm now but I was freaking out a few hours ago. His application has to be in in just two short weeks. I didn’t realize it was so soon. If he ends up having to leave as a result of this crap process, I have two not-great choices: move with him or lose him. Ok, there is a third choice: long distance. But when does that ever work?
I’ll just keep hoping for the best. If he ends up here then all of my worrying was for nothing.